//www.lilaclane.com/relationships/emotional-abuse/
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htmL
Monday, June 23, 2008
Saturday, June 21, 2008
Eight Ways to Spot Emotional Manipulation
1. There is no use in trying to be honest with an emotional manipulator.
You make a statement and it will be turned around. Example: I am really angry that you forgot my birthday. Response - "It makes me feel sad that you would think I would forget your birthday, I should have told you of the great personal stress I am facing at the moment - but you see I didn’t want to trouble you.
2. An emotional manipulator is the picture of a willing helper.
If you ask them to do something they will almost always agree - that is IF they didn’t volunteer to do it first. Then when you say, "ok thanks" - they make a bunch of heavy sighs, or other non verbal signs that let you know they don’t really want to do whatever said thing happens to be. When you tell them it doesn’t seem like they want to do whatever - they will turn it around and try to make it seem like OF COURSE they wanted to and how unreasonable you are. This is a form of crazy making - which is something emotional manipulators are very good at.
3. Crazy making - saying one thing and later assuring you they did not say it.
If you find yourself in a relationship where you figure you should start keeping a log of what’s been said because you are beginning to question your own sanity --You are experiencing emotional manipulation. An emotional manipulator is an expert in turning things around, rationalizing, justifying and explaining things away
4. Guilt. Emotional manipulators are excellent guilt mongers.
They can make you feel guilty for speaking up or not speaking up, for being emotional or not being emotional enough, for giving and caring, or for not giving and caring enough. Any thing is fair game and open to guilt with an emotional manipulator.
5. Emotional manipulators fight dirty.
They don’t deal with things directly. They will talk around behind your back and eventually put others in the position of telling you what they would not say themselves. They are passive aggressive, meaning they find subtle ways of letting you know they are not happy little campers. They’ll tell you what they think you want to hear and then do a bunch of jerk off shit to undermine it.
6. If you have a headache an emotional manipulator will have a brain tumor!
No matter what your situation is the emotional manipulator has probably been there or is there now - but only ten times worse. It’s hard after a period of time to feel emotionally connected to an emotional manipulator because they have a way of de-railing conversations and putting the spotlight back on themselves.
7. Emotional manipulators somehow have the ability to impact the emotional climate of those around them.
When an emotional manipulator is sad or angry the very room thrums with it - it brings a deep instinctual response to find someway to equalize the emotional climate and the quickest route is by making the emotional manipulator feel better - fixing whatever is broken for them. Stick with this type of loser for too long and you will be so enmeshed and co-dependent you will forget you even have needs - let alone that you have just as much right to have your needs met.
8. Emotional manipulators have no sense of accountability.
They take no responsibility for themselves or their behavior - it is always about what everyone else has "done to them". One of the easiest ways to spot an emotional manipulator is that they often attempt to establish intimacy through the early sharing of deeply personal information that is generally of the "hook-you-in-and-make-you-sorry-for-me" variety. Initially you may perceive this type of person as very sensitive, emotionally open and maybe a little vulnerable. Believe me when I say that an emotional manipulator is about as vulnerable as a rabid pit bull, and there will always be a problem or a crisis to overcome.
Written by Fiona McColl
You make a statement and it will be turned around. Example: I am really angry that you forgot my birthday. Response - "It makes me feel sad that you would think I would forget your birthday, I should have told you of the great personal stress I am facing at the moment - but you see I didn’t want to trouble you.
2. An emotional manipulator is the picture of a willing helper.
If you ask them to do something they will almost always agree - that is IF they didn’t volunteer to do it first. Then when you say, "ok thanks" - they make a bunch of heavy sighs, or other non verbal signs that let you know they don’t really want to do whatever said thing happens to be. When you tell them it doesn’t seem like they want to do whatever - they will turn it around and try to make it seem like OF COURSE they wanted to and how unreasonable you are. This is a form of crazy making - which is something emotional manipulators are very good at.
3. Crazy making - saying one thing and later assuring you they did not say it.
If you find yourself in a relationship where you figure you should start keeping a log of what’s been said because you are beginning to question your own sanity --You are experiencing emotional manipulation. An emotional manipulator is an expert in turning things around, rationalizing, justifying and explaining things away
4. Guilt. Emotional manipulators are excellent guilt mongers.
They can make you feel guilty for speaking up or not speaking up, for being emotional or not being emotional enough, for giving and caring, or for not giving and caring enough. Any thing is fair game and open to guilt with an emotional manipulator.
5. Emotional manipulators fight dirty.
They don’t deal with things directly. They will talk around behind your back and eventually put others in the position of telling you what they would not say themselves. They are passive aggressive, meaning they find subtle ways of letting you know they are not happy little campers. They’ll tell you what they think you want to hear and then do a bunch of jerk off shit to undermine it.
6. If you have a headache an emotional manipulator will have a brain tumor!
No matter what your situation is the emotional manipulator has probably been there or is there now - but only ten times worse. It’s hard after a period of time to feel emotionally connected to an emotional manipulator because they have a way of de-railing conversations and putting the spotlight back on themselves.
7. Emotional manipulators somehow have the ability to impact the emotional climate of those around them.
When an emotional manipulator is sad or angry the very room thrums with it - it brings a deep instinctual response to find someway to equalize the emotional climate and the quickest route is by making the emotional manipulator feel better - fixing whatever is broken for them. Stick with this type of loser for too long and you will be so enmeshed and co-dependent you will forget you even have needs - let alone that you have just as much right to have your needs met.
8. Emotional manipulators have no sense of accountability.
They take no responsibility for themselves or their behavior - it is always about what everyone else has "done to them". One of the easiest ways to spot an emotional manipulator is that they often attempt to establish intimacy through the early sharing of deeply personal information that is generally of the "hook-you-in-and-make-you-sorry-for-me" variety. Initially you may perceive this type of person as very sensitive, emotionally open and maybe a little vulnerable. Believe me when I say that an emotional manipulator is about as vulnerable as a rabid pit bull, and there will always be a problem or a crisis to overcome.
Written by Fiona McColl
Friday, June 20, 2008
Hello, and welcome to the mental health hotline.
- If you are obsessive-compulsive, press 1 repeatedly.
- If you are codependent, please ask someone to press 2 for you.
- If you have multiple personalities, press 3,4,5, and 6.
- If you are paranoid, we know who you are and what you want. Stay on the line so we can trace your call.
- If you are delusional, press 7 and your call will transferred to the mother ship.
- If you are schizophrenic, listen carefully and a small voice will tell you which number to press.
- If you are manic depressive, it doesn't matter which number you press, no one will answer.
- If you have a nervous disorder, please fidget with the hash key until someone comes on the line.
- If you are dyslexic, press 6969696969.
- If you have amnesia, press 8 and state your name, address, phone number, date of birth, social security number, and your mother's maiden name.
- If you have post-traumatic-stress disorder, slowly and carefully press 000.
- If you have bipolar disorder, please leave a message after the beep, or before the beep, or after the beep. Please wait for the beep.
- If you have short-term memory loss, press 9. If you have short term memory loss, press 9. If you have short term memory loss, press 9. If you have short term memory loss, press 9.
- If you have low self esteem, please hang up. All our operators are too busy to talk to you."
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- If you are codependent, please ask someone to press 2 for you.
- If you have multiple personalities, press 3,4,5, and 6.
- If you are paranoid, we know who you are and what you want. Stay on the line so we can trace your call.
- If you are delusional, press 7 and your call will transferred to the mother ship.
- If you are schizophrenic, listen carefully and a small voice will tell you which number to press.
- If you are manic depressive, it doesn't matter which number you press, no one will answer.
- If you have a nervous disorder, please fidget with the hash key until someone comes on the line.
- If you are dyslexic, press 6969696969.
- If you have amnesia, press 8 and state your name, address, phone number, date of birth, social security number, and your mother's maiden name.
- If you have post-traumatic-stress disorder, slowly and carefully press 000.
- If you have bipolar disorder, please leave a message after the beep, or before the beep, or after the beep. Please wait for the beep.
- If you have short-term memory loss, press 9. If you have short term memory loss, press 9. If you have short term memory loss, press 9. If you have short term memory loss, press 9.
- If you have low self esteem, please hang up. All our operators are too busy to talk to you."
funnyhumor.com
Three poisons for love: Manipulation, Intimidation, and Domination
http://rodesmith.com/2006/03/15/manipulation-domination-intimidation/
When people have to use intimidation, manipulation or domination, the relationship is already spoiled or poisoned. It has become a power play of control. Redeeming such a relationship is possible with the implementation of a wise plan, strongly redefined boundaries, enduring commitment and the possibility of a time of separation in order that perspective might be gained.
Willingness and desire to be together, equality between people and complete mutuality are the hallmarks of healthy relationships. Where any form of strong-arm tactics are used, the relationship has already taken a turn to become something harmful to both the parties.
Each of these relationship-poisons (manipulation, domination and intimidation) can be very subtle, coming in different shapes, sizes and intensities.
Here are some of the evidences of manipulation, intimidation and domination in a relationship:
1. The relationship has been kept on an unequal footing in order that one person might keep power over another. In a severely controlling relationship, both persons might have forgotten there are choices at all.
2. One person tries to get what he or she wants without declaring what is wanted. In attempting to get what the one person wants, both persons are in some way diminished.
3. One person does not see the other as totally free.
4. One person tries to get what he or she wants through threats or withdrawal.
5. It is expected that every move, thought, and feeling will be reported at least from the less-dominant person to the other. If one person is unwilling to tell all, it is assumed there is something to hide.
6. One person is not free to make plans without consulting or getting permission from the other.
7. One person in the relationship continually evaluates and examines the commitment and love of the other.
8. The dominant person tells the other how they should feel and usually re-scripts any division or disagreement into the appearance of unity.
9. One person feels at liberty to speak for both people and then, is offended when the partner wants to express his or her own views.
10. Desire for self-expression or a distinct voice (by one) is considered betrayal or a lack of trust (by the other).
11. One person expects unilateral support for his or her opinions, choices and desires, declaring somewhat of an attitude which says: If you say you love me then you have to love everything about me, under all conditions, and all of the time.
12. Difference in opinion or having different interests is considered a lack of love, or a lack of respect and commitment.
Simple definitions and a metaphor which might be helpful in considering the three poisons of relationships:
Manipulation: playing chess with another person or with people. Maneuvering as if life were an attempt to checkmate others into loving us or doing what we want.
Domination: playing chess with another person or with people as in manipulation. The difference is the dominator has removed the opponent’s pieces without declaring so in the first place.
Intimidation: playing chess with another person or with people where winning and losing comes with either the threat of punishment or actual punishment.
Healthy Relationships: There is no element of either winning or losing; they are not a game of chess at all and are free of tactics and agenda.
When people have to use intimidation, manipulation or domination, the relationship is already spoiled or poisoned. It has become a power play of control. Redeeming such a relationship is possible with the implementation of a wise plan, strongly redefined boundaries, enduring commitment and the possibility of a time of separation in order that perspective might be gained.
Willingness and desire to be together, equality between people and complete mutuality are the hallmarks of healthy relationships. Where any form of strong-arm tactics are used, the relationship has already taken a turn to become something harmful to both the parties.
Each of these relationship-poisons (manipulation, domination and intimidation) can be very subtle, coming in different shapes, sizes and intensities.
Here are some of the evidences of manipulation, intimidation and domination in a relationship:
1. The relationship has been kept on an unequal footing in order that one person might keep power over another. In a severely controlling relationship, both persons might have forgotten there are choices at all.
2. One person tries to get what he or she wants without declaring what is wanted. In attempting to get what the one person wants, both persons are in some way diminished.
3. One person does not see the other as totally free.
4. One person tries to get what he or she wants through threats or withdrawal.
5. It is expected that every move, thought, and feeling will be reported at least from the less-dominant person to the other. If one person is unwilling to tell all, it is assumed there is something to hide.
6. One person is not free to make plans without consulting or getting permission from the other.
7. One person in the relationship continually evaluates and examines the commitment and love of the other.
8. The dominant person tells the other how they should feel and usually re-scripts any division or disagreement into the appearance of unity.
9. One person feels at liberty to speak for both people and then, is offended when the partner wants to express his or her own views.
10. Desire for self-expression or a distinct voice (by one) is considered betrayal or a lack of trust (by the other).
11. One person expects unilateral support for his or her opinions, choices and desires, declaring somewhat of an attitude which says: If you say you love me then you have to love everything about me, under all conditions, and all of the time.
12. Difference in opinion or having different interests is considered a lack of love, or a lack of respect and commitment.
Simple definitions and a metaphor which might be helpful in considering the three poisons of relationships:
Manipulation: playing chess with another person or with people. Maneuvering as if life were an attempt to checkmate others into loving us or doing what we want.
Domination: playing chess with another person or with people as in manipulation. The difference is the dominator has removed the opponent’s pieces without declaring so in the first place.
Intimidation: playing chess with another person or with people where winning and losing comes with either the threat of punishment or actual punishment.
Healthy Relationships: There is no element of either winning or losing; they are not a game of chess at all and are free of tactics and agenda.
Thursday, June 19, 2008
Narcissism can be described as someone who never grew out of the natural selfishness of being a child. A person with narcissism finds it hard to share and even harder to share the limelight, wanting always to be centre stage. They may invent stories to get what they want and pretend that they are more important than they are and will often blame others for their own wrong doings. Narcissism flourishes in those who are charming and attractive, because they manage to get away with this behavior better than others. Narcissists feel very embarrassed if they are seen to be wrong or have made a mistake, and like a child may throw tantrums or rages and make up stories rather than admit their mistakes.
Narcissists are always looking for attention. They are flirts and have constant crushes and real or fantasy affairs, they are often addicted to pornography and many are cyber-paths having online affairs with numerous people that they will tell many lies to.
When narcissism has a hold of a person, they will feel VERY lonely and desperate for the affection of some ‘perfect’ person who will be sympathetic and adoring. Sadly this ‘perfect’ person is actually an illusion in the narcissist’s mind, tormenting and making their life miserable.
http://www.narcissism.com.au/Home.html
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http://www.helium.com/items/764559-recognizing-and-coping-with-narcissistic-abuse
http://www.angelfire.com/zine2/narcissism/narcissism_checklist.html
http://www.winning-teams.com/recognizenarcissist.html
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/narcissistic-personality-disorder/DS00652/DSECTION=2
http://www.cassiopaea.com/cassipaea/emotional_manipulation.htm
1. An exaggerated sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
Translation: Grandiosity is the hallmark of narcissism. So what is grandiose?
The simplest everyday way that narcissists show their exaggerated sense of self-importance is by talking about family, work, life in general as if there is nobody else in the picture.
They give the impression that they are bearing heroic responsibility for their family or department or company, that they have to take care of everything because their spouses or co-workers are undependable, uncooperative, or otherwise unfit.
Claiming unusual benefits or spectacular results from ordinary effort and investment, giving the impression that somehow the narcissist's time and money are worth more than other people's
2. Preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
Translation: Narcissists cultivate solipsistic or "autistic" fantasies, which is to say that they live in their own little worlds (and react with affront when reality dares to intrude).
3. Believes he is "special" and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
Translation: Narcissists think that everyone who is not special and superior is worthless. By definition, normal, ordinary, and average aren't special and superior, and so, to narcissists, they are worthless.
4. Requires excessive admiration
Translation: Excessive in two ways: they want praise, compliments, deference, and expressions of envy all the time, and they want to be told that everything they do is better than what others can do. Sincerity is not an issue here; all that matter are frequency and volume.
5. Has a sense of entitlement
Translation: They expect automatic compliance with their wishes or especially favorable treatment, such as thinking that they should always be able to go first and that other people should stop whatever they're doing to do what the narcissists want, and may react with hurt or rage when these expectations are frustrated.
6. Selfishly takes advantage of others to achieve his own ends
Translation: Narcissists use other people to get what they want without caring about the cost to the other people.
7. Lacks empathy
Translation: They are unwilling to recognize or sympathize with other people's feelings and needs. They "tune out" when other people want to talk about their own problems.
8. Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him
Translation: No translation needed.
9. Shows arrogant, haughty, patronizing, or contemptuous behaviors or attitudes
Translation: They treat other people like dirt.
http://www.chameleongroup.org.uk/npd/first_step.html :
Psychologically there are several criteria which have been applied to this personality disorder. These are:
• The narcissist can not take perspective, hence situations are blown out of proportion
• The narcissist has little or no empathy. This means that (s)he cannot identify with the feelings or thoughts of another person
• The narcissist is preoccupied with her/his personal distress
• The narcissist cannot accept authority and hence has little concern for morals
• The narcissist feels easily inferior and will try to be seen as superior
• The narcissist is narcissistic hypersensitive, and hence cannot accept any form of critique
• The narcissist is an exhibitionist and needs sexual admiration
• The narcissist is exploitative, vain and not self-sufficient
Narcissists are always looking for attention. They are flirts and have constant crushes and real or fantasy affairs, they are often addicted to pornography and many are cyber-paths having online affairs with numerous people that they will tell many lies to.
When narcissism has a hold of a person, they will feel VERY lonely and desperate for the affection of some ‘perfect’ person who will be sympathetic and adoring. Sadly this ‘perfect’ person is actually an illusion in the narcissist’s mind, tormenting and making their life miserable.
http://www.narcissism.com.au/Home.html
xxxxxxxxxx
http://www.helium.com/items/764559-recognizing-and-coping-with-narcissistic-abuse
http://www.angelfire.com/zine2/narcissism/narcissism_checklist.html
http://www.winning-teams.com/recognizenarcissist.html
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/narcissistic-personality-disorder/DS00652/DSECTION=2
http://www.cassiopaea.com/cassipaea/emotional_manipulation.htm
1. An exaggerated sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
Translation: Grandiosity is the hallmark of narcissism. So what is grandiose?
The simplest everyday way that narcissists show their exaggerated sense of self-importance is by talking about family, work, life in general as if there is nobody else in the picture.
They give the impression that they are bearing heroic responsibility for their family or department or company, that they have to take care of everything because their spouses or co-workers are undependable, uncooperative, or otherwise unfit.
Claiming unusual benefits or spectacular results from ordinary effort and investment, giving the impression that somehow the narcissist's time and money are worth more than other people's
2. Preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
Translation: Narcissists cultivate solipsistic or "autistic" fantasies, which is to say that they live in their own little worlds (and react with affront when reality dares to intrude).
3. Believes he is "special" and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
Translation: Narcissists think that everyone who is not special and superior is worthless. By definition, normal, ordinary, and average aren't special and superior, and so, to narcissists, they are worthless.
4. Requires excessive admiration
Translation: Excessive in two ways: they want praise, compliments, deference, and expressions of envy all the time, and they want to be told that everything they do is better than what others can do. Sincerity is not an issue here; all that matter are frequency and volume.
5. Has a sense of entitlement
Translation: They expect automatic compliance with their wishes or especially favorable treatment, such as thinking that they should always be able to go first and that other people should stop whatever they're doing to do what the narcissists want, and may react with hurt or rage when these expectations are frustrated.
6. Selfishly takes advantage of others to achieve his own ends
Translation: Narcissists use other people to get what they want without caring about the cost to the other people.
7. Lacks empathy
Translation: They are unwilling to recognize or sympathize with other people's feelings and needs. They "tune out" when other people want to talk about their own problems.
8. Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him
Translation: No translation needed.
9. Shows arrogant, haughty, patronizing, or contemptuous behaviors or attitudes
Translation: They treat other people like dirt.
http://www.chameleongroup.org.uk/npd/first_step.html :
Psychologically there are several criteria which have been applied to this personality disorder. These are:
• The narcissist can not take perspective, hence situations are blown out of proportion
• The narcissist has little or no empathy. This means that (s)he cannot identify with the feelings or thoughts of another person
• The narcissist is preoccupied with her/his personal distress
• The narcissist cannot accept authority and hence has little concern for morals
• The narcissist feels easily inferior and will try to be seen as superior
• The narcissist is narcissistic hypersensitive, and hence cannot accept any form of critique
• The narcissist is an exhibitionist and needs sexual admiration
• The narcissist is exploitative, vain and not self-sufficient
Here now a list of possible symptoms a narcissist might display:
Dis-allowance of contacts with friends and families
• Extreme jealousy
• Belittling
• Verbal and/or physical violence
• Punishments
• Sudden withdrawal
• Inability to admit wrong doings
• Control over your time
• Self-mutilation
• Threats and intimations
• Destruction of your things - physical and non-physical
• Claiming to know your feelings and motivations
• Accusations of infidelity and of behavior you yourself despise
http://www.narcissismcured.com/narcissism_cured_-_13_steps_and_free_radio_show.html
Narcissism looks like this... Your partner treats you and perhaps your children different in private than in public. In public he may ignore you and give all of his attention to others, or pretend to be the perfect husband and father, while in private he may be sarcastic, haughty and insulting and show little or no regard for your well being or your feelings. He may criticize and put people down behind their backs and have an inflated sense of entitlement and ego, thinking he deserves things that he hasn’t worked for or earned and manipulate situations for attention, acting a bit too good to be true. This can fool people and so few of them will believe how he talks to his family in private. He may treat you and the kids with loathing and/or moral dominance and suffer from all different kinds of conceit including that he is of superior intelligence, looks or physical prowess or he may be cold, withdrawn arrogant and unavailable. His criticism, insults and lack of involvement or concern for your well being or feelings may cause anxiety and depression in your self and/or your kids, as well as cause you other mental health and psychological problems and addictions.
Many narcissists are obsessed by the fantasy of an ideal relationship that is ‘perfect’ (and therefore fantasy!) and are skilled liars. If the above symptoms describe your partner you should be aware that he may habitually have secret crushes on other women, be having affairs, using pornography, and/or conducting ‘cyber’ affairs (lying that they are single) all without your knowledge. If you notice that his mind is often elsewhere, and he shows narcissistic tendencies, this might be the reason. This obsession with his fantasy life is part of what makes him unavailable, impatient and angry with you. It is a major symptom of this personality disorder. You may not want to consider this possibility, I know I didn’t believe it until the evidence was right in front of me ... and then I was shattered.
Dis-allowance of contacts with friends and families
• Extreme jealousy
• Belittling
• Verbal and/or physical violence
• Punishments
• Sudden withdrawal
• Inability to admit wrong doings
• Control over your time
• Self-mutilation
• Threats and intimations
• Destruction of your things - physical and non-physical
• Claiming to know your feelings and motivations
• Accusations of infidelity and of behavior you yourself despise
http://www.narcissismcured.com/narcissism_cured_-_13_steps_and_free_radio_show.html
Narcissism looks like this... Your partner treats you and perhaps your children different in private than in public. In public he may ignore you and give all of his attention to others, or pretend to be the perfect husband and father, while in private he may be sarcastic, haughty and insulting and show little or no regard for your well being or your feelings. He may criticize and put people down behind their backs and have an inflated sense of entitlement and ego, thinking he deserves things that he hasn’t worked for or earned and manipulate situations for attention, acting a bit too good to be true. This can fool people and so few of them will believe how he talks to his family in private. He may treat you and the kids with loathing and/or moral dominance and suffer from all different kinds of conceit including that he is of superior intelligence, looks or physical prowess or he may be cold, withdrawn arrogant and unavailable. His criticism, insults and lack of involvement or concern for your well being or feelings may cause anxiety and depression in your self and/or your kids, as well as cause you other mental health and psychological problems and addictions.
Many narcissists are obsessed by the fantasy of an ideal relationship that is ‘perfect’ (and therefore fantasy!) and are skilled liars. If the above symptoms describe your partner you should be aware that he may habitually have secret crushes on other women, be having affairs, using pornography, and/or conducting ‘cyber’ affairs (lying that they are single) all without your knowledge. If you notice that his mind is often elsewhere, and he shows narcissistic tendencies, this might be the reason. This obsession with his fantasy life is part of what makes him unavailable, impatient and angry with you. It is a major symptom of this personality disorder. You may not want to consider this possibility, I know I didn’t believe it until the evidence was right in front of me ... and then I was shattered.
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
Flowers and life satisfaction
According to behavioral research conducted at Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey, nature provides us with a simple way to improve emotional health - flowers. The presence of flowers triggers happy emotions, heightens feelings of life satisfaction and affects social behavior in a positive manner far beyond what is normally believed.
1. Flowers have an immediate impact on happiness.
All study participants expressed "true" or "excited" smiles upon receiving flowers, demonstrating extraordinary delight and gratitude. This reaction was universal,
All study participants expressed "true" or "excited" smiles upon receiving flowers, demonstrating extraordinary delight and gratitude. This reaction was universal,
occurring in all age groups.
2. Flowers have a long-term positive effect on moods.
Specifically, study participants reported feeling less depressed, anxious and agitated after receiving flowers, and demonstrated a higher sense of enjoyment and life satisfaction.
3. Flowers make intimate connections.
The presence of flowers led to increased contact with family and friends.
2. Flowers have a long-term positive effect on moods.
Specifically, study participants reported feeling less depressed, anxious and agitated after receiving flowers, and demonstrated a higher sense of enjoyment and life satisfaction.
3. Flowers make intimate connections.
The presence of flowers led to increased contact with family and friends.
aboutflowers.com
rutgers.edu
Human Behavior and the Interior Environment
* Perception of people's environment influences their social interaction within
that environment.
* Social interaction can be discussed in terms of four concepts:
1. privacy
2. personal interaction levels
3. territoriality
4. crowding.
Psychological Human Response
* People respond to their environment based upon perception, cognition and spatial behavior.
Perception and Aesthetic
* Color may be used in various ways to influence our perception of space.
* Individual differences such as sex, age and health (to name a few), are important
determinants of behavioral responses to an environment.
Human Response to the Interior Environment
* social needs and problems incl. group dynamics and communication
* our physical comfort in a space
* interpersonal relationships among members of a small group
* the ability to limit other's view of oneself
* acoustic privacy environment
* vision, hearing, stability, and mobility
* space, furnishings, temperature, sound, humidity, and ventilation
read this full length publication on usace.army.mil
Marijuana: Let's Be Blunt...
This is a great BBC documentary where journalist Nicky Taylor will smoke cannabis for 30 days to see the effects...
Interviews are made in England and the Netherlands, very entertaining, educational & scientific...
What are the short term effects of using marijuana?
* sleepiness and increased hunger
* altered sense of time
* impaired or reduced short-term memory
* reduced ability to perform tasks requiring concentration and
coordination, such as driving, or studying for an exam
* increased heart rate
* potential cardiac dangers for those with pre-existing heart disease
* bloodshot eyes
* decreased social inhibitions that can increase exposure to risky situations
* risk of paranoia, hallucinations, intense anxiety, panic attacks
What are the long-term effects of using marijuana?
* impairments in learning, memory, perception, and judgment
* some people experience paranoia, hallucinations, intense anxiety,
panic attacks- psychological dependence requiring more
of the drug to get the same effect
* paranoia
* increased risk of chronic pulmonary disorders,
including cancer (lung/mouth), emphysema,
increase in testosterone levels for women
* decrease in testosterone levels for men
* lower sperm levels in men
* increased risk of infertility in both men and women
* diminishing or extinguished sexual pleasure
* decreased social inhibitions and exposure to risky situations
Why do people quit using marijuana?
* psychological damage
* physical damage
* dont feel like getting high
* not enjoyable
* partner disapproved
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How does marijuana affect driving?
Can a person become addicted to marijuana?
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What are the short term effects of using marijuana?
* sleepiness and increased hunger
* altered sense of time
* impaired or reduced short-term memory
* reduced ability to perform tasks requiring concentration and
coordination, such as driving, or studying for an exam
* increased heart rate
* potential cardiac dangers for those with pre-existing heart disease
* bloodshot eyes
* decreased social inhibitions that can increase exposure to risky situations
* risk of paranoia, hallucinations, intense anxiety, panic attacks
What are the long-term effects of using marijuana?
* impairments in learning, memory, perception, and judgment
* some people experience paranoia, hallucinations, intense anxiety,
panic attacks- psychological dependence requiring more
of the drug to get the same effect
* paranoia
* increased risk of chronic pulmonary disorders,
including cancer (lung/mouth), emphysema,
increase in testosterone levels for women
* decrease in testosterone levels for men
* lower sperm levels in men
* increased risk of infertility in both men and women
* diminishing or extinguished sexual pleasure
* decreased social inhibitions and exposure to risky situations
Why do people quit using marijuana?
* psychological damage
* physical damage
* dont feel like getting high
* not enjoyable
* partner disapproved
more questions:
How long does marijuana stay in the body?
How does marijuana affect driving?
Can a person become addicted to marijuana?
check them out on health.rutgers.edu
Symptoms of depression
* Loss of interest in normal daily activities
* Feeling sad, down or unhappy
* Feeling hopeless or worthless
* Crying spells for no apparent reason
* Problems sleeping
* Trouble focusing or concentrating
* Difficulty making decisions
* Unintentional weight gain or loss
* Irritability
* Restlessness
* Being easily annoyed
* Feeling fatigued or weak
* Feeling worthless
* Loss of interest in sex
* Thoughts of suicide or suicidal behavior
* Unexplained physical problems, such as back pain or headaches
* Lapses in personal hygiene, such as not bathing as regularly
* Losing interest in activities or people
What is depression?
We all go through ups and downs in our mood. Sadness is a normal reaction to life’s struggles, setbacks, and disappointments. We’re down in the dumps for a short time, then gradually the painful feelings dissipate and we move on with our lives—often the wiser for the experience. But when the low mood persists, interfering with your ability to work, study, eat, sleep, and have fun, it’s no longer normal. It’s depression.
Risk factors for depression:
* Loneliness
* Lack of social support
* Recent stressful life experiences
* Family history of depression
* Marital or relationship problems
* Financial strain
* Early childhood trauma or abuse
* Alcohol or drug abuse
* Unemployment or underemployment
* Health problems or chronic pain
Gender Differences in Depression
Men tend to act out their mood disorder while women typically turn it inward. Depression symptoms in men and women can be radically different, leading to lack of understanding and correct diagnosis. Based on the latest research findings here are some of the prime differences between male and female depression (of course not everyone will have the same symptoms, and almost certainly not all of them, this is just a rough guide):
Symptoms in women
* Tendency to self-blame
* Feels sad, apathetic, worthless
* Feels anxious, frightened
* Sleeps to much
* Difficulty maintaining boundaries
* Guilt
* Problems with success
* Assumes low status
* Self-medicates through food
* Withdrawal
Symptoms in men
* Blames others
* Anger, irritability, ego inflation
* Feels suspicious, guarded
* Creates conflict
* Restlessness and agitation
* Compulsiveness
* Sleeps too little
* Becomes controlling
* Shame (eg. sex performance)
* Fear of failure
* Becomes over status-conscious
* Self-medicates through alcohol
* Over use of internet/TV/email
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* Feeling sad, down or unhappy
* Feeling hopeless or worthless
* Crying spells for no apparent reason
* Problems sleeping
* Trouble focusing or concentrating
* Difficulty making decisions
* Unintentional weight gain or loss
* Irritability
* Restlessness
* Being easily annoyed
* Feeling fatigued or weak
* Feeling worthless
* Loss of interest in sex
* Thoughts of suicide or suicidal behavior
* Unexplained physical problems, such as back pain or headaches
* Lapses in personal hygiene, such as not bathing as regularly
* Losing interest in activities or people
What is depression?
We all go through ups and downs in our mood. Sadness is a normal reaction to life’s struggles, setbacks, and disappointments. We’re down in the dumps for a short time, then gradually the painful feelings dissipate and we move on with our lives—often the wiser for the experience. But when the low mood persists, interfering with your ability to work, study, eat, sleep, and have fun, it’s no longer normal. It’s depression.
Risk factors for depression:
* Loneliness
* Lack of social support
* Recent stressful life experiences
* Family history of depression
* Marital or relationship problems
* Financial strain
* Early childhood trauma or abuse
* Alcohol or drug abuse
* Unemployment or underemployment
* Health problems or chronic pain
Gender Differences in Depression
Men tend to act out their mood disorder while women typically turn it inward. Depression symptoms in men and women can be radically different, leading to lack of understanding and correct diagnosis. Based on the latest research findings here are some of the prime differences between male and female depression (of course not everyone will have the same symptoms, and almost certainly not all of them, this is just a rough guide):
Symptoms in women
* Tendency to self-blame
* Feels sad, apathetic, worthless
* Feels anxious, frightened
* Sleeps to much
* Difficulty maintaining boundaries
* Guilt
* Problems with success
* Assumes low status
* Self-medicates through food
* Withdrawal
Symptoms in men
* Blames others
* Anger, irritability, ego inflation
* Feels suspicious, guarded
* Creates conflict
* Restlessness and agitation
* Compulsiveness
* Sleeps too little
* Becomes controlling
* Shame (eg. sex performance)
* Fear of failure
* Becomes over status-conscious
* Self-medicates through alcohol
* Over use of internet/TV/email
helpguide.org
upliftprogram.com
The brain contains 6 functions:
1. Creative Visualization
2. Emotional Response
3. Executive Planning
4. Language & Math
5. Memory & Learning
6. Social Interaction
for a clear explanation of these functions check out this page of brainwaves.com
2. Emotional Response
3. Executive Planning
4. Language & Math
5. Memory & Learning
6. Social Interaction
for a clear explanation of these functions check out this page of brainwaves.com
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