Narcissists are always looking for attention. They are flirts and have constant crushes and real or fantasy affairs, they are often addicted to pornography and many are cyber-paths having online affairs with numerous people that they will tell many lies to.
When narcissism has a hold of a person, they will feel VERY lonely and desperate for the affection of some ‘perfect’ person who will be sympathetic and adoring. Sadly this ‘perfect’ person is actually an illusion in the narcissist’s mind, tormenting and making their life miserable.
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1. An exaggerated sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
Translation: Grandiosity is the hallmark of narcissism. So what is grandiose?
The simplest everyday way that narcissists show their exaggerated sense of self-importance is by talking about family, work, life in general as if there is nobody else in the picture.
They give the impression that they are bearing heroic responsibility for their family or department or company, that they have to take care of everything because their spouses or co-workers are undependable, uncooperative, or otherwise unfit.
Claiming unusual benefits or spectacular results from ordinary effort and investment, giving the impression that somehow the narcissist's time and money are worth more than other people's
2. Preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
Translation: Narcissists cultivate solipsistic or "autistic" fantasies, which is to say that they live in their own little worlds (and react with affront when reality dares to intrude).
3. Believes he is "special" and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
Translation: Narcissists think that everyone who is not special and superior is worthless. By definition, normal, ordinary, and average aren't special and superior, and so, to narcissists, they are worthless.
4. Requires excessive admiration
Translation: Excessive in two ways: they want praise, compliments, deference, and expressions of envy all the time, and they want to be told that everything they do is better than what others can do. Sincerity is not an issue here; all that matter are frequency and volume.
5. Has a sense of entitlement
Translation: They expect automatic compliance with their wishes or especially favorable treatment, such as thinking that they should always be able to go first and that other people should stop whatever they're doing to do what the narcissists want, and may react with hurt or rage when these expectations are frustrated.
6. Selfishly takes advantage of others to achieve his own ends
Translation: Narcissists use other people to get what they want without caring about the cost to the other people.
7. Lacks empathy
Translation: They are unwilling to recognize or sympathize with other people's feelings and needs. They "tune out" when other people want to talk about their own problems.
8. Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him
Translation: No translation needed.
9. Shows arrogant, haughty, patronizing, or contemptuous behaviors or attitudes
Translation: They treat other people like dirt.
http://www.chameleongroup.org.uk/npd/first_step.html :
Psychologically there are several criteria which have been applied to this personality disorder. These are:
• The narcissist can not take perspective, hence situations are blown out of proportion
• The narcissist has little or no empathy. This means that (s)he cannot identify with the feelings or thoughts of another person
• The narcissist is preoccupied with her/his personal distress
• The narcissist cannot accept authority and hence has little concern for morals
• The narcissist feels easily inferior and will try to be seen as superior
• The narcissist is narcissistic hypersensitive, and hence cannot accept any form of critique
• The narcissist is an exhibitionist and needs sexual admiration
• The narcissist is exploitative, vain and not self-sufficient
Here now a list of possible symptoms a narcissist might display:
Dis-allowance of contacts with friends and families
• Extreme jealousy
• Belittling
• Verbal and/or physical violence
• Punishments
• Sudden withdrawal
• Inability to admit wrong doings
• Control over your time
• Self-mutilation
• Threats and intimations
• Destruction of your things - physical and non-physical
• Claiming to know your feelings and motivations
• Accusations of infidelity and of behavior you yourself despise
http://www.narcissismcured.com/narcissism_cured_-_13_steps_and_free_radio_show.html
Narcissism looks like this... Your partner treats you and perhaps your children different in private than in public. In public he may ignore you and give all of his attention to others, or pretend to be the perfect husband and father, while in private he may be sarcastic, haughty and insulting and show little or no regard for your well being or your feelings. He may criticize and put people down behind their backs and have an inflated sense of entitlement and ego, thinking he deserves things that he hasn’t worked for or earned and manipulate situations for attention, acting a bit too good to be true. This can fool people and so few of them will believe how he talks to his family in private. He may treat you and the kids with loathing and/or moral dominance and suffer from all different kinds of conceit including that he is of superior intelligence, looks or physical prowess or he may be cold, withdrawn arrogant and unavailable. His criticism, insults and lack of involvement or concern for your well being or feelings may cause anxiety and depression in your self and/or your kids, as well as cause you other mental health and psychological problems and addictions.
Many narcissists are obsessed by the fantasy of an ideal relationship that is ‘perfect’ (and therefore fantasy!) and are skilled liars. If the above symptoms describe your partner you should be aware that he may habitually have secret crushes on other women, be having affairs, using pornography, and/or conducting ‘cyber’ affairs (lying that they are single) all without your knowledge. If you notice that his mind is often elsewhere, and he shows narcissistic tendencies, this might be the reason. This obsession with his fantasy life is part of what makes him unavailable, impatient and angry with you. It is a major symptom of this personality disorder. You may not want to consider this possibility, I know I didn’t believe it until the evidence was right in front of me ... and then I was shattered.
Dis-allowance of contacts with friends and families
• Extreme jealousy
• Belittling
• Verbal and/or physical violence
• Punishments
• Sudden withdrawal
• Inability to admit wrong doings
• Control over your time
• Self-mutilation
• Threats and intimations
• Destruction of your things - physical and non-physical
• Claiming to know your feelings and motivations
• Accusations of infidelity and of behavior you yourself despise
http://www.narcissismcured.com/narcissism_cured_-_13_steps_and_free_radio_show.html
Narcissism looks like this... Your partner treats you and perhaps your children different in private than in public. In public he may ignore you and give all of his attention to others, or pretend to be the perfect husband and father, while in private he may be sarcastic, haughty and insulting and show little or no regard for your well being or your feelings. He may criticize and put people down behind their backs and have an inflated sense of entitlement and ego, thinking he deserves things that he hasn’t worked for or earned and manipulate situations for attention, acting a bit too good to be true. This can fool people and so few of them will believe how he talks to his family in private. He may treat you and the kids with loathing and/or moral dominance and suffer from all different kinds of conceit including that he is of superior intelligence, looks or physical prowess or he may be cold, withdrawn arrogant and unavailable. His criticism, insults and lack of involvement or concern for your well being or feelings may cause anxiety and depression in your self and/or your kids, as well as cause you other mental health and psychological problems and addictions.
Many narcissists are obsessed by the fantasy of an ideal relationship that is ‘perfect’ (and therefore fantasy!) and are skilled liars. If the above symptoms describe your partner you should be aware that he may habitually have secret crushes on other women, be having affairs, using pornography, and/or conducting ‘cyber’ affairs (lying that they are single) all without your knowledge. If you notice that his mind is often elsewhere, and he shows narcissistic tendencies, this might be the reason. This obsession with his fantasy life is part of what makes him unavailable, impatient and angry with you. It is a major symptom of this personality disorder. You may not want to consider this possibility, I know I didn’t believe it until the evidence was right in front of me ... and then I was shattered.
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